Anniversary of son's vanishing is 'crushing' - mum

Sarah Lilley
BBC News, Suffolk
Suffolk Police A composite of four images of Luke Durbin, a young white man with dark hair. In two of the photos he is wearing a dark baseball cap.Suffolk Police
Luke Durbin was 19 when he went missing in May 2006

The mother of a missing man has described the 19th anniversary of his disappearance as "crushing".

Luke Durbin, from Hollesley, near Woodbridge, Suffolk, was 19 when he disappeared on a night out with friends in Ipswich on 11 May 2006.

He was last captured on CCTV at 04:00 BST in Dogs Head Street, heading towards the bus station. His case has previously been the subject of documentaries.

"This [anniversary] I've dreaded," said his mother Nicki Durbin. "It can't possibly be that he's been missing as long as we had him".

She said: "Every anniversary [of his disappearance] or birthday is obviously incredibly difficult to get through... [but] it's [now] his whole life again that he's been gone."

Police previously said that during Mr Durbin's last known hours, he finished work at a greengrocer's in Aldeburgh and then went to do a drug deal in Woodbridge before meeting up with friends.

They drank in pubs, took cocaine and then went clubbing in Ipswich before he left alone and tried and failed to get a taxi home because he had left his phones, keys and wallet at his friend's house.

A still image of Nicki Durbin who has shoulder length curly brown hair. She is wearing a black and white striped top.
Nicki Durbin said she would never give up hope of finding her son

Renewing an appeal for information about her missing son, Ms Durbin said: "It's so difficult to explain, all I have left to give to my son is to try and find those answers.

"I still believe someone in this area still knows something that could give the answers that our family so desperately need. I don't want justice, I just want to know where my son's body is, or what happened to him.

"I want to find the answers. I hate the word closure, it doesn't sit right in my vocabulary. My son has been gone for 19 years, if we just had answers, I could stop looking. I could stop searching. I am thinking about Luke every day, all the possibilities of what could happen."

She said her "incredible support network" of friends, family and the general public had helped her cope, but added "the pain [of losing Luke] doesn't go".

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