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'I'm Danny Dyer – I don't need a chat-up line'

Charlie Burley and Alix Hattenstone
BBC News
TRUE BRIT Danny Dyer is slumped on a white table, chin on his elbow and looking up at the camera. He has a dark beard and moustache and wears a gold wedding ring and no shirt. There is a small tattoo on the side of his hand. In the background are two bookshelves, one either side of him. His expression suggests he is feeling rough.TRUE BRIT
Danny Dyer plays Jack, who is given six weeks to turn his life around and save his marriage - but what are the actor's personal tips for romantic bliss?

Danny Dyer is back on the big screen with a film about a bloke trying to win back his missus.

Marching Powder follows the story of Jack Jones (Dyer), a football hooligan who feels increasingly irrelevant.

After some violent match day behaviour, Jack is arrested and given six weeks to turn his life around - or face prison. He also has to try to save his marriage.

But the real Danny Dyer met his partner when they were 13. They've been together more than 30 years, married for eight of them, and he likes to think he's a bit of a romantic.

So, what love lessons can we learn from the former EastEnders actor?

Separate beds is the way forward

Danny Dyer as Mick in EastEnders, standing in a short pink dressing gown, extending the pink belt out as he smiles down at his EastEnders wife, Linda. Linda is under the duvet, laughing. There is a silver headboard and flamingo wallpaper behind them.
Dyer spent almost a decade playing strong yet soft-hearted pub landlord Mick Carter in EastEnders

"I'm a snorer," Dyer admits.

"You know what, snoring is just bad luck. Me and my wife have been around a long time and we have separate beds and the reason for that is, I unfortunately roar in the night."

The 47-year-old says it's rare to have been with your partner for over 30 years at his age. "We're bringing up grandchildren – it's a beautiful thing. My clan's getting bigger and I've become more responsible now.

"I feel like I've grown up slightly and become an adult."

Men need to open up

TRUE BRIT Headshot of Danny Dyer looking at the camera in a black cap, you can see the top of a black cardigan and black shirt. He has a warm expression in his eyes, mouth is neutral. There is a white wall behind him. TRUE BRIT
Danny Dyer says the idea of masculinity can be 'ridiculous' sometimes, and he is not ashamed to open up about his emotions

"Listen, I think it's a bit of a myth that I've played the hard man role," Dyer says. "In EastEnders, I played an alpha male that wore a pink dressing gown. I was a very sensitive soul."

He says if you look at the Marching Powder poster, it's easy to think he's playing a hard man - but his character, Jack, isn't. "He's into football violence and he's got a lot of issues around addiction, but he's a good man.

"What is masculinity?" Dyer wonders. "When does it become toxic? It's about being a decent human being.

"There's nothing wrong with being masculine. But as men, we need to open up to each other and stand up to our mates and go, 'no, I'm not coming out tonight – I'm going to spend a nice evening with my wife'.

"Me and my wife are actually going to therapy, couples' help groups. And you know, your mates are all laughing but you go – no, no I love her."

The art of seduction

Danny Dyer looks across the table at a woman in front of a bar. He wears a grey waistcoat and a dark suit jacket and white shirt. You can see the back of her head - a blonde bun, hoop earring and pink top. She looks like Linda, his wife in EastEnders, and the setting looks like one of the bars on the EastEnders set. There is an orange drink in a cocktail class with a straw between them. On the bar are pitchers of different coloured drinks. The woman looks like she is smiling but you cannot see much of her face. He is looking into her eyes.
Danny Dyer says he has learned to listen more, and knows his wife is always in the right: "Sometimes she's in the wrong, but even then, she's in the right"

When it comes to his romantic playlist, Dyer loves the somewhat unlikely combo of Luther Vandross and Jeff Buckley.

"Everybody Here Wants You – whack that on," he says. And what's his best chat up line? He replies immediately.

"Well, I'm Danny Dyer. I don't need one. Whatever that means. Well, you know, fame and stuff, I don't think I've ever needed to use a chat up line.

"Obviously I've been with my missus for so long and I went through a period where I was quite desirable to women, and all of a sudden I've become desirable again, even though I'm a grandad, a balding sort of lumpy grandad."

Staying grounded

TRUE BRIT Danny Dyer looks ahead of him with blood on his forehead, dressed in black and sitting down. He has a serious expression, a clapper board to his left and arms holding it. There are blinds behind his head and wallpaper to his left with yellow leaves on a white backdrop. To his right are photos hung up over a counter.TRUE BRIT
Dyer says his wife never wanted to be famous, but has experienced some of the limelight through his job

Dyer says his wife has grown with him and kept him grounded. "She's a very special human being and she's never really been fazed by my work."

He says he comes from a working class family and the Marching Powder screening was "full of the working class lot that love our movies. And it's always great to be around real people, as I like to call them".

"You know, the real people that keep this country going – the underrepresented at the moment, the underpaid, you know, people just existing at the moment," he says.

"We need more working class people in politics that know what it's like to be working class. And we need more working class people in the arts. The most creative people out there – musicians, actors, whatever, are working class people. End of it, full stop."

Dyer says Jack, his character in Marching Powder, is flawed but lovable.

"He's got no right to still be with his wife - the way he treats her, he just keeps on getting it wrong."

But he says audiences are hopefully rooting for Jack to save his marriage.

"To be a good patriarch is hard and every day is a lesson," says Dyer. "Look after the ones around you."

Fall in love with people's flaws

TRUE BRIT Danny Dyer sits at a small table with a red checked table cloth, opposite a woman with brown hair. They are looking into each other's eyes and holding hands. He wears a yellow shirt with checks on . There is a glass of red wine next to him and a glass of white whine next to her. A red flower stands up between them. The walls behind them are teal.TRUE BRIT
Danny Dyer says we love people for their flaws and their quirkiness, "but we also sort of hate them for it"

"What is love?," Dyer asks.

"It's falling in love with people's flaws, that's why we stay with people, we meet people, we have a mask on that we're so perfect and then we got to the next level where you take that mask off and it's the weird, quirky stuff that you either go – see you later, you're elbowed – or, ooh, I quite like that about you."

Dyer says love is an interesting dynamic.

"We need more love in the world, by the way," he says.

"Where's all the love gone? Too much hatred and division going on."

Marching Powder is out in cinemas from 7th March.

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